Quit Whining and Take Action
Quit Whining About Your Problems and Take Action:
All too often we complain about what is happening to us. We whine about how things aren’t going our way and, how our circumstances are holding us back. This may seem to alleviate pressures but, the fact is it only makes things worse.
When we focus our attention on how bad things are and how nothing is going our way, we actually attract more of that into our lives. If you want to stop feeling badly then change your focus. Start thinking about what you have going for you. Ask yourself what you can do about your situation. Then take action!!!
This is called being proactive. Proactive behavior is empowering because it puts the control back where it belongs. It puts the control in your hands!
You may be thinking “But, you don’t know how bad I have it.” or “You don’t understand my circumstances.” Your right, I don’t. Let me clarify something for you. I don’t have to…
The Alternative:
How can I be so sure? Well, let me tell you about the alternative. If you choose not to be proactive you give all your power to whatever it is that is holding you down. Whether it is a job, a spouse, lack of money, or any number of other circumstances, by not taking the proactive approach you resign yourself to live exactly what you are feeling badly about.
I don’t know about you but, I am not going to sit back and let things just happen to me. I refuse to roll over and play dead while others dictate my life!
But, It’s Hard:
Is this approach hard? Yes, sometimes it is but, again what is your alternative? Which do you think is more difficult? Which would you rather live? I personally would rather take the hard road and live my life to the best of my ability, than to sit in a corner like a scared child.
In every situation we have choices such as, how to react, what to say, and what action to take. We need to be smart and act intelligently. Think about your options and decide on your best plan of action.
Take It One Step at a Time:
When we are feeling sorry for ourselves it is easy to get “stuck” in a negative spiral. It can be difficult to snap yourself out of these feelings. In fact, to jump from one extreme to the other in most cases is almost impossible. Therefore, we need to take things one step at a time.
As Karen Lynch at Live The Power once suggested, start out by asking yourself what you can do that will make you feel a little bit better than you do right now. Then do it. Continue taking one step at a time until you feel empowered and in control of your life. Even if it takes 100 steps it is worth the effort.
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September 30th, 2007 @ 4:54 pm
I love this advice! I usually say “Change your reality!” While there are plenty of things that can happen that are out of our control, I encourage myself and others to change our reality as much as possible to get out of whatever rut we’re in.
September 30th, 2007 @ 5:18 pm
Bob,
Sounds like we are on the same page.
October 1st, 2007 @ 6:33 am
Priscilla, you’re right. Taking even small steps helps you get past the whining stage and doing something about your situation. Good advice!
October 1st, 2007 @ 9:57 am
Great Post, Priscilla! So many people tend to get caught up in the “whining” but we are responsible for our lives and the only one who can change things is us!
October 1st, 2007 @ 10:30 am
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October 1st, 2007 @ 1:59 pm
I’ll never be able to see/hear whining now without thinking about Randy Pausch. I’m betting his example has cured thousands of people of self-pity.
October 1st, 2007 @ 2:09 pm
ZHereford- Yes, I learned something from Karen the day she posted that.
Karen- Absolutely, thank you.
Mel- Thanks!
Jean- Your right, that is great. Thanks for the letting me know about it.
October 2nd, 2007 @ 1:44 am
Priscilla,
As always, a good post. My conviction is that each of us is endowed with the inner power to combat our obstacles in life. Whining or complaining is never a solution.
We are free to use the spiritual and intellectual power to achieve whichever goal we can set for ourselves. Moving one step at a time, just as you suggested, is a sure way to reach our destination.
Abu.
October 2nd, 2007 @ 4:36 am
Dear Priscilla,
Along the lines of this thread, it was touching to read about your experience picking up trash in Moss Cove. Its funny. I was thinking about you today, and then, perhaps due to synchrony, I came across your story unexpectly while reading Doreen Virtue’s latest book Fairies 101. I suppose there’s no point in whining. Simply listen to the fairies whispering!
October 2nd, 2007 @ 8:57 am
Reminded me what Anthony Robbins said: Most people concentrate 80% of their time on problems and 20% of their time on finding the solutions. Yet, the right way should be the reverse.
October 2nd, 2007 @ 11:13 am
Abu- I like that line “Whining and complaining is never a solution.”
Liara Covert- Hmmmm. I think maybe you have me confused with someone else? I really have no clue what your referring to. However, you do have my curiosity peaked, do you mind sending a link to this Moss Cove story you are referring to? I’d like to read it.
October 2nd, 2007 @ 6:59 pm
Hi Priscilla.
I suppose more than one person could exist with your name. The message brought me back to comment here:) The story reference in question is located in Fairies 101, p 8-9, a book published in 2007 by by Doreen Virtue (Hay House). You might check out your local library or the psychology/ parapsychology section of a local bookstore. You cmight justread more about what you may have done during Astral Dreaming…
October 3rd, 2007 @ 6:26 am
Liara- Thank you, I’ll have to check that out. Either way I’m grateful that this story has brought you here and, I certainly appreciate the compliments.